Often, people mistake being charming and kind with being good. “Be kind,” seems to be a popular catchphrase nowadays. I don’t want to rain on anyone’s parade, but kindness can and has been used in the past as weapon to control and manipulate others- think about how some of the slave owners treated their slaves with kindness and you might have a little understanding of where I am going with this. I’m not saying don’t be kind, but I am adding to it. Don’t just be kind, be good.